Personal development
Did you know that a tree grows in two directions at the same time – down and up. In its downward growth it forms the root system, and in its upward extension it forms branches, branches, leaves and fruits. As it grows downward, it forms a bark. If we pay attention to the roots of the tree, we will notice that they are almost identical to the branches and branches, that is, the part of the tree below the ground is very similar to the part of the tree above the ground. upwards it forms branches, branches, leaves and fruit. When the seeds hit the soil, they find themselves in conditions of darkness and resistance. In order to take root, the seeds must overcome the resistance of the soil in order to continue their development. When the part of the tree that grows up towards the sky breaks through the surface, it has no more resistance. If a tree cannot grow down, it cannot grow up. This is the nature of life.
We humans, as part of this nature, could not live on a different principle. In order to be able to develop successfully, we must have strong roots – in the family, in society, in values. In nature, before anything goes up, it has to come down. The human psyche is based on the same principle. The depth and strength of the roots define the person, his personality, his character and the way he will interact with the world and people. Development and growth is often about overcoming obstacles, many of which are rooted in our habits, thinking, beliefs and attitudes. When these beliefs and attitudes are limiting, thinking is mostly negative, and habits do not lead to gradation, development and growth become impossible. If emotional chaos reigns in our consciousness, our soul experiences dissatisfaction, we experience internal conflicts that often have an external expression, then this inevitably turns into resistance and limits our development both internally and externally. How to overcome the limitations?
Getting rid of fears
Fear is a basic human emotion and its underlying mechanism is of utmost importance to the survival of all living things. Fear is justified in cases where it is to protect the life and health of the individual, but not in cases where it is caused by possibly anticipated events that we think or believe may occur. Statistics show that 90% of the fears we face never materialize. We can begin to get rid of the unpleasant sensations by first making a list of everything that we were afraid of even a year ago and noting how many of these fears were justified and how many of them were not.
Changing beliefs and convictions
One of the biggest obstacles to personal development is the negative beliefs and convictions a person has about themselves. They are formed in childhood as a result of a person’s individual personal experience. Everything we have experienced, everything we have gone through affects our reality and the way we view ourselves and the world. “I’m not good enough”, “I’ll never be first in anything”, “I’m not as beautiful as others”, “nobody cares about me”, “the world is very unfair”, “I’m always assuming mistakes’ are only some of the possible scenarios in which one can fall into a trap. Maybe when we were kids, someone told us that we wouldn’t make it, or at school we weren’t popular and liked, or maybe our parents compared us to our brother, who was an honors student and captain of the water polo team, and we’ve been average and away from the sport. Or maybe our first love left us for someone else and this leaves us with the belief that it is dangerous to love because you will be abandoned. The most important thing to know is that dysfunctional beliefs and convictions were formed far back in time based on current experience and their action today is not justified in all cases. Reworking takes place first by identifying the specific maladaptive patterns and then by refuting them. Each new day implies the accumulation of new experience and the creation of a new opportunity for change.
